45 is about the stock value. Back when NISMO actually employed people that knew something about their race parts they recommended about 105 for our application. We ran as low as 75 to no detriment, and I preferred that versus anything over 105.
I'd be willing to try the stock setup and see if you get wheelspin out of slow corners. If not, should be fine.
Find a 300-325 degree tranny/diff temp guage and install it. Let me know when you break the needle off. Then I'll tell you how to fix your heat problem.